Sunday, February 22, 2015

Seeking Wisdom

There are three things that you can do to dial in your search for wisdom:  read, take wise counsel, and serve others. 
Seeking Words of Wisdom
If it is good for children, then why don't adults do it more?
Where do you seek wisdom?  Horoscopes?  Popular magazines?  Someone on satellite radio?  Most of you read books, magazines, newspapers, and the social media.  We are encouraged to read as a child but as adults we have forgotten this vital piece of advice.  What do you call a child that reads two books a year?  A slow or below average reader.  What do your call an adult that reads two books a year? Normal. Amazingly the national average for books read by American adults is less than two books a year.

You have heard, perhaps even said “I determined that when I got out of college, that I would never read another book again.  I haven’t read a book in twenty years.”  These people are proud of it.  I ask myself, "Are these people on the path of search for wisdom?"  These may not be folks with whom you can afford to become close for their search for wisdom ended years ago.

If you do not think that you can take the time to read, you can always listen to audiobooks.  “You do not know what my life is like.  I have a job. My wife has a job.  I have kids.  I am the president of the social club.  You are telling me that I need to read books and listen to recordings?”  Yes. You do not have to clear the house and your calendar, sit at a table with pen and paper and take notes.  You do not have to pay attention like that.  All you have to do is press the play button.  Listen while you are cooking, mowing, driving the kids to school.  Listen while you shower. Listen while you sleep.  You will get it.  After all, consider the number of commercial jingles or television theme songs you have inadvertently memorize (“Let me tell you a story about a man name Jed, poor mountaineer that barely kept his family fed.”)  If anything is going to be programming you subconscious mind, why not choose the programming.

Know that you are not reading just to read.  You are reading to gain wisdom. Remember you are who you spend time with, and you are what you read.  (The social media and Maury may not be best for you.)  Sometimes, it is useful to explore subjects that have nothing to do with our occupational endeavors and let your mind make its own connections.  The Leadership Academy is conducting a book study of Jack Welch, former CEO of GE.  His books is entitled The 4 E’s of Effective Leadership.  We start this afternoon, making the connection.

Never forsake the assemblingThere is power in fellowship.  Choose your companions wisely.Friends influence us at any age.  If we are surrounded by those who use bad language, your language will tend toward that. If we hang with those who have certain viewpoints, you will be persuaded by those views.  If you spend time with those who are lazy, you will tend towards laziness.   If you are comfortable with people who make excuses, you will tend to make excuses as well. 

A True Friend Holds You to a Higher Standard
A true friend is not someone who accepts you as you are.  A true friend is one that holds you to a higher standard.   He/She expects you to do what you said you were going to do, when you said you were going to do it.   A true friend makes you better by his or her presence

Seek the Counsel of the Wise
Find those that are smarter than you, are more skilled than you, and have more fruit on the tree in key parts of their life.  Develop a Board of Directors for your life.  Befriend a spiritual, emotional, physical and financial adviser.  Have a friend that makes you laugh.  Have a friend who is a good listener.  You do not have to tell them that they are on the Board- it can be your secret. 

Beware of the Waterloo 
As you are more successful, you will find the path less traveled.  Never think that you know all.  During the 100 Day Campaign of 1815, all of Europe feared Napoleon.  At Waterloo, Napoleon drove his French Calvary of 5,000 directly into the British cannon fire and separated the English form their artillery.  The French had captured the guns, Napoleon would have defeated Wellington at Waterloo- except that the French had forgotten the nails.  When troops overran an opponent’s cannon, they would take headless nails and drive them down into the touch-hole, rendering the cannon useless.  Napoleons troops had asked before the battle, “Where are the nails?”  Their confusion was ignored.  They had all- guns, horses, swords, lances, and artillery pieces but no nails.  Wellington’s men got the cannons back and turned them on Napoleon’s army and the French were defeated
No Counsel, No Nails, No Win


When you counsel yourself, you make decisions according to what you know.  By counseling with wise men and women, you add their knowledge and experience to your own, dramatically increasing you chances for success and decrease the possibility of failure. 

Know that the past will never change, but you can change the future by changing your actions today.   We, as humans, are always in a process of change. We might as well guide the direction of that change.  It is a simple process. Seek wisdom in words and counsel. 

Next week, we will discuss serving others.

Monday, February 16, 2015

The Buck Stops with You

I picked up a new-to-me Andy Andrews book this weekend entitled The Seven Decisions:  Understanding the Keys to Personnel Success, of which the first step is to accept responsibility.

Anonymous Writes:  A Part of My Life I Don’t Talk Much About 
In a particularly dark time in my life, I had a job I hated, a boss I hated more than the job, and money problems that to this day put a huge knot in my stomach when I think about them. I couldn’t see a way out, and I had lost all sense of hope that things would ever change for me.  At some point during my despair and self-victimization, I asked myself, “Why do all these terrible things keep happening to me? What am I doing to deserve all this?”

The question answered itself. The primary cause of all my problems was, in a way, what I was doing to myself.  Whether I succeed or fail – whether I am happy or miserable – it’s very likely the result of a decision I have made.  (i.e. I had a horrible job with an evil boss. I chose to accept the job offer. I had money problems.  I chose the life of indebtedness).

The Cure:  Find the nearest mirror to see the cause of 99% of your happiness or misery.  When you do this, things will began to change for the better.

Caveat of Random Occurrences
Random bad things do happen. Unfortunately, sometimes murderers randomly kill, hurricanes decimate cities, and planes, cars, and trains crash. So yes – there are real-life innocent victims. It’s a real thing.

Do Not Play the Blame Game (Quack! Quack!)
Within yourself, your personal and professional life, do not blame others.  Do not blame your parents, spouse, boss, employees, society, or the church for your present situation.  Do not blame the weather, the economy or the President either. (Yes, I had a relative blame her mom and dad’s financial woes on the fall of President Obama’s stock market.)  Do not let your education nor lack of one, your genetics or circumstances affect your future in a negative way.  Do not let your history control your destiny.   The buck stops with you

Accept Responsibility
If decisions are choices and one’s thinking dictates our decisions, then we are where we are because of our thinking. The beginning of wisdom is to accept the responsibility for one’s own problems.  If you do not accept responsibility for where you are right now, you have no hope of changing your future. Responsibility is about hope and control.  You can control your future.  

Think Positively
Allow your thoughts to be constructive, not destructive.  Fill your mind with solutions of the future.  Do not dwell on the problems of the past.   Associate with those striving to bring about positive change.  Do not seek comfort from those who have decided to be comfortable.    Make decisions and stand by them.  Do not waste time on second thoughts.  Do not let your life be an apology.  Let it be a statement.  You control your thought.  You are in control of your emotions.   Do not ask, “Why me?”  Ask, “Why not me.”

Hold Others Accountable
If you are principal, teacher, bus driver, CEO, supervisor, or any person in-charge: demand that those of whom you are responsible accept responsibility.  Nothing substantial will grow from denial.  Problems will persist and not be resolved.  The irresponsible child and/or adult cannot move forward until they accept responsibility. 

In all that you do, accept responsibility and hold others accountable, as well.